HE'S NOT YOUR PRINCE CHARMING: words
Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken in right circumstances. Proverbs 25:11
Dear girls,
I started this series, He’s Not Your Prince Charming, so long ago I cannot seem to find it’s beginning. It has been a revealing and satisfying journey for me to share with you things I have learned and am still learning after 35 years of marriage to a good and godly man.
I’ve written to you about the beauty of a woman’s sexuality, about attitudes and admiration and freedom and friendship. I’ve told stories, attempting to be honest, trying to present truth with hope and just a tad bit of real life hilarity.
And I’ve heard your stories. You have given me the greatest gift a woman can give to a friend— your truth.
I’ve laughed and I’ve cried and I’ve worried. Sometimes I’ve smiled so wide into my computer that my husband has wondered what in the world I’m so excited about! I just keep telling him these are my girls…
That’s who you are.
You’ve listened and you’ve passed my words to people you love. Sometimes you’ve disagreed or pointed out holes in my thinking. You’ve added your own hard earned wisdom of how to do holiness in real life. You’ve counseled each other… nothing thrills me more!
Here is what I hope you have learned as we’ve talked:
- That no man can satisfy that deep craving every woman has for intimacy and worth and validation and beauty.
- That Jesus is the one you’re craving.
- That He wants to draw you near in your brokenness more than He wants you to be perfect.
- That He craves you too. Will I ever get over the wonder?
And…
- That loving a man is an act of worship, by faith, in the One who calls us to love passionately, purposefully, beautifully.
- That loving this way will take everything we have: our intelligence, our willingness, our creativity, our intuition and our wisdom.
- That loving this way is a calling, an honor, and a choice.
- That loving a man well can only come out of a place of being loved well by the One Man who fills your heart to overflowing.
And more… that God specifically urges wives to love their husbands by being…
- his lover
- his friend
- his partner
- his admirer
A couple of weeks ago, my blog team met and spent a long evening talking about what’s next. And though we could keep talking about how to love our men forever and ever… we realize that our lives are rich with relationships that need our focus. We have friends, parents, sons and daughters and roommates. And each of us is intent on drawing closer in intimacy with God in a way that is authentic and life changing.
With those priorities in mind, we have come up with a new series called simply WORDS. My focus will be on sharing with you what I want my girls to know. Things that I want to pass on; truths and wisdom I am learning or have learned that have made all the difference in my world.
For the next few weeks we will be reposting from He’s Not Your Prince Charming, reaching way back in the archives to remind and reteach and rethink what we’ve been learning together. I hope you will add fresh comments to shed new light on these posts.
In the meantime I will be writing ahead for the new series, studying, reading, thinking, and praying about what to say and how to say it.
And, drums roll… writing my first book. My dream of publishing a book is finally coming true. No doubt I’ll be sharing snippets here and there as I chip away at it for the next few months.
From a heart overflowing with love for each of you,
Diane
P.S. If there is a topic you’re longing for me to address, please let me know in the comments. My own list is growing…